I clean, cook, provide, maintain and after all of the above, if have any energy left in my fragile mind, go out to work to“contribute” in running of the house. If I earn money, I am called the working housewife else everyone just passes me off as- the housewife. Such is my life. I am a successful daughter, a sister, a wife, a mother but am I a good individual? Do I stand up to being a WOMAN??
Let me start this controversial topic by saying that I am
happily married and am a mother to the two most wild, wonderful kids. So before
you write me off, I suggest hearing me out first. My main aim of writing on
this topic is the failure of finding reasoning to a lot of things women are put
through...not that it’s a lot different for men but then there is a slight gap.
A few days ago at a spontaneous lunch with friends, someone
suggested taking a holiday to Goa . It was a
great idea but I knew practically I was far from it. I mean who would pack my
sonny boy to the school and braid my princess’s hair, I don’t have to worry
about hubby too much but then I can’t have the poor soul running the household
on his own while I say cheers and enjoy the sandy beaches. I shrugged and
brushed away the thought, but upon being asked by my folks about my lunch,
since social outings are rare, I happened to mention the idea of the group
taking off on a break. That is when it all began…
So my poor mum who was in the middle of taking another
morsel, stops to look at me for proper 2 seconds and asks me “OH SO ALL THE
COUPLES ARE GOING HUH?” Good!! You need a break. I can take care of the kids.
To the already hysterical state, I add, No only friends are planning to go.
It’s not really the same with spouses. Ya Alright!! I had her undivided attention
now. I know I know… I am being melodramatic here but for the sake of a lil jazz
let’s just believe this is how it happened J
After my innocent shocker, it was my turn to answer a
questionnaire. How many people? How many boys…err men? How do you know them?
How many women? Have you discussed this at home? blah blah blah blah blah
blah……..OMG right? I understood the concern my parents and my hubby had. It’s
when I realized how many things around me question my stand as a person. Like
you will still be looked upon strangely if you use cuss words. You will be
opinioned if your bra straps shows out of a low cut blouse/ kameez and God save
you if you decided to wear a pink/read/blue/yellow one on that godforsaken day.
And do you even want me to anywhere near the topic of a woman, mother and wife
enjoying a drink. Yes you know better.
I mean why are so many bad things, liberal things and manners
of the society adjustable for men but why fringed upon extending the same to poor
mortals like us? I am not saying that I want to break loose and run away from
my responsibilities in the name of freedom but it’s my life and my say will be
nice once in a while. I shouldn’t be looked down upon if I decide to take a
break from the mundane routine. No one other than me can decide how much
spending is reasonable spending. My time isn’t free only coz I am at home. I am
a person who serves others, but wishes to pamper thy from time to time. I am no
slave to the chains of society; I refuse to be weighed down by the rules for I
am a woman an individual.
This was simply brilliant... Written so well... In my opinion... A woman has her own individuality and priorities... But, at the end of day, women are also the greatest sacrificers...
ReplyDeleteThe irony may be persistent but the ideology is not... Hats off to the last two lines..
I am glad you like my lil take on life around..well all I can say is there will be more posts on things I feel for..:)
DeleteThis was simply brilliant... Written so well... In my opinion... A woman has her own individuality and priorities... But, at the end of day, women are also the greatest sacrificers...
ReplyDeleteThe irony may be persistent but the ideology is not... Hats off to the last two lines..